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There are at least three different perspectives that we can take when thinking about a relationship: Self, Other, & Observer.
Self Position is when we experience an interaction through our own filters, looking through our own eyes, listening through our own ears, and feeling our own emotions.
Other Position is when we experience an interaction through the other person’s filters, looking as through their eyes, listening as though through their ears, and feeling, as much as possible, their emotions.
Observer Position is when we take the outsider position looking at, and listening to, the two of them over there dispassionately and compassionately, and becoming aware of other times when they have behaved in this way, knowing that unless one of them changes they will repeat this pattern again and again.
Most of us have a preference for one or other of these positions whereas in fact it would be far better if we developed the ability to shift among them so that Self becomes more resourceful improving the situation for both people and enriching the relationship.
I show you how to shift more easily between these perspectives on Perceptual Positions. |
